Learning to love yourself can seem selfish because of the bad press it attracts. Most people connect loving yourself to the type of selfishness that screams: ‘They love themselves don’t they!’
Have you read the eBook; ‘Love Yourself Like Your Life Depended On It’ by Kamal Ravikant? I have. It’s changed how I see loving yourself forever.
I fairly skipped through it, page by page, devouring its message.
Kamal had reached rock bottom, and knew he had to take action to turn his life around. He decided the best thing he could do, was to literally love himself.
This took the form of repeating the phrase ‘I love myself’, over and over, until it changed his life.
No matter what was happening, or how he was feeling, he repeated his mantra until slowly, but surely, his life became magical again.
His words sung like magic to my hungry heart. I knew that he had found the key to unlocking the ‘stuckness‘ of my own being.
It sounds like a simple premise. And it is. But like all simple things, it’s also complex. Overcoming a life times self conditioning not to love yourself takes inner strength to keep at it.
Babies love and are mostly loved in return. But for some bizarre reason, those babies grow up to learn that love is a commodity, used as a bargaining tool, rather than their birthright.
How strange we human beings are. Few adults are happy with their life and crave happiness. Many subscribe to the ‘I’ll be happy when…..’ scenario, you fill in the dots.
Others throw their happiness to the wind in the hope it lands on someone who will make them happy. It creates a dependency as deadly as any class A drug.
And yet, it doesn’t have to be like this. If you, me and everyone in existence can learn to take back the responsibility to learn to truly love themselves, warts and all, everything changes.
Happiness bubbles up from within as desired because it’s not dependant of others to provide it. It comes just because you decide to be happy.
Learning to love yourself unconditionally is liberating because you find yourself loving others unconditionally too. No more buts, no more being hurt by thoughtless comments, no more striving to be liked, or loved as somebody else’s puppet.
The list is endless. But, you have to be willing to learn to love yourself. You have to let go of any negative beliefs you’ve gathered over the years. Believe me when I say, they could never have come from you in the first place.
Others expectations of who, or what you should be is a terrible responsibility to carry. Worst of all, it crushes your own hopes and dreams. That’s not fair, and that’s not right.
You deserve to be able to make your own choices. To follow your own stars and to be you.
This doesn’t mean being cruel to well-meaning others. You may not owe them any explanations, but when you love yourself, you’ll find you will want to let them down gently.
Doing so, will free them to follow your example, giving them the opportunity to learn to love themselves too.
I’m a work in progress. I’m putting Kamal’s suggestions into practice. Already I can feel a shift. A welcome home from my heart as I place my attention where it belongs.
How about you? Care to join the learning to love yourself train too….